"When I lived in South Africa, someone told me what the longest road in Africa is. It's not the road from Cairo to Capetown, it's the way from your head to your heart, and from there to the here and now" - Bert Hellinger
Why do some people struggle to create harmonious intimate, familial and work relationships even though they have healthy, fulfilling lifestyles and are committed to personal growth? These struggles are often a result of entangled and entrenched family dynamics, which impact on future relationships. The effect of entangled family dynamics in a person’s formative years can also lead to other difficulties like addiction, illness and repetitive negative patterns. These unfortunate consequences later in life cannot always be attributed to personal attitudes. Upbringing and hidden family dynamics play a far bigger role than previously thought. These hidden family dynamics are commonly referred to as the Family Constellation.
Bert Hellinger, a respected German psychotherapist, developed the Family Constellation method to reveal the hidden dynamics within families, called ‘Orders of Love’. When these natural orders of love become distorted (through perceived traumas or even subconscious traumas) they can result in negative entanglements for future generations through hereditary morphogenic energy fields. These entanglements can persist and create future relationship difficulties between partners, children, siblings, friends and/or workmates. Hellinger studied philosophy, theology, pedagogy and locates his model within phenomenology and his approach has roots in several therapy schools, for e.g. group psychotherapy, psychoanalysis, Primal Therapy, Transactional Analysis, and NLP. Family Constellation work relies on the immediate processing of nonverbal experience.
How Does this Therapy Work?
Family Constellation is a well-known therapy in Europe. It is a process of reconciliation, where ancestral influences are unravelled and family dynamics become visible. The therapy can be conducted in groups or individual sessions.
During an individual session, figures or dolls are used to represent absent family members. This means that the perceptions of the client and facilitator are essential because there won‘t be any familial feedback. It’s also possible to use mats or papers as they will display an image of the relationship between members and help to develop a strategy towards a solution through physical movements.
Family Constellation with Representatives
For example, A person who is setting up a family constellation will select people who represent their family members, and themselves. The representatives will be told who they represent and moved/placed in a room in a position that will reflect the experience and sensations of the participants in his/her family. This is done with respect and awareness so that the representatives will report experiences that are similar to the original people/ family members. Sometimes even sentences will be spoken exactly how the unknown real family member/person would express them.
The representatives don’t know the purpose of the Family Constellation session. Once the participant is satisfied with how the representatives are placed he/she will step out and observe the constellation from the outside. Any visible dynamics/life events are never judged: they’re facts, and there’s no good or evil. Even if a crime has been committed, it doesn’t matter what will be unraveled as it’s still seen just as a fact, always. The facilitator will lead the session in an alert, respectful and caring manner to make the family influences visible. The facilitator then assists the individual to accept, let go and create a loving space for all members of the constellation.
At the end of the session, the participant exchanges with his/her representative for an even more powerful outcome. This therapy can transmute generations of ancestral suffering and unhappiness. It can help people to live happier and more fulfilled lives by releasing destructive familial patterns.
Body and Skin Care, Cairns Beaches offers:
Individual constellations: Client - Facilitator, by appointment
This session varies in duration, so the price will change eg Duration of 30 min - $70 / with Membership $50 //
Clients with cancer $40
Group constellations: Group - Facilitator, workshops or by appointment
Theme: customised and given theme
The person who will constellate $250 with Membership $200 // Clients with cancer $150
Representative $100 with Membership $80 // Clients with cancer $30
Annual Membership; $100